It only took me 40 YEARS to Learn This

It took me 40 years to learn this. Not all connection is real connection. If it’s built on gossip and tearing others down, it’s not trust, it’s insecurity. And if someone speaks cruelly about everyone else, they’ll likely do the same about you. Real relationships feel safe, not performative. Pay attention to how people create closeness. It will tell you exactly what that relationship will cost you.